10 Reasons to Let Your Nanny Go
Nov 18

10 Reasons to Let Your Nanny Go


jobterminationAs difficult as it is to hire a nanny, it is even more trying to make the decision to dismiss her, and it’s certainly not one to be taken lightly. In most cases, your children are already attached to their nanny and your family has already fallen into a routine that encompasses her. From the other end, if things are not working out, prolonging the situation will only make it worse and more difficult to terminate down the line. You may wonder if your reasons are good enough to pull the proverbial trigger, though. To help ease your decision making, here are 10 viable reasons to let your nanny go.

  • She’s Not Dependable – The bottom line is that the nanny is your employee, and you need to be able to count on her to show up to do her job. If she fails to come into work, it can jeopardize your career and can cause the kids to feel let down, as if they cannot rely on the person they have grown to trust. If you find you have to cancel a lot of your plans, meetings and work obligations because the nanny is unreliable, it’s time to let her go because she is defeating the purpose of hiring her in the first place. That’s not to say that unexpected situations don’t occur. They do, and everyone, including the children, must learn to cope with that. However, if these unexpected absences become the norm, it makes for a very reasonable argument to fire the nanny.
  • Your Kids Have Separation Anxiety That Goes Beyond the Norm – If your children are twisting themselves around your legs and begging you not to leave them after several weeks of the nanny’s employment, something is not right. Certainly, as with dropping your child off at daycare, adjusting to a nanny can be difficult. However, if you have a good nanny, the children will become used to you leaving and will enjoy their time with the new caregiver. If your children are dreading being with their childcare provider, she simply is not a good fit for your family.
  • There Have Been Too Many Accidents – Your children’s safety is the number one reason to hire a nanny in the first place, and it should be her first priority. Children will get hurt from time to time, even under the most attentive care, but if you find there are just too many mishaps, you may want to consider letting the nanny go. You certainly don’t want to wait until something more serious occurs.
  • You’ve Found Proof of Theft – Sadly, there are many stories of families having items stolen by their nanny. While you would not want to throw that accusation out there lightly, be watchful if you begin to find items missing around the home. Sometimes items get lost, especially when you have children. Still, outright theft is a sure sign that your nanny cannot be trusted in your home, and is a completely justifiable reason for making a change.
  • She’s Been Caught in a Lie or Two – When it comes to your children, there is no room for dishonesty. You need to be aware of everything from your child’s eating habits, to how he hurt himself, to how he is interacting with his peers. There is no such thing as too much information regarding your kids. If your nanny is holding anything back or is actively lying to you, you’ll want to find someone more trustworthy.
  • Your Family’s Needs Have Changed – Sometimes schedules change, and more time becomes available for parents to spend with their children. You may also be offered the opportunity to work out of your home so that you do not need a full-time caregiver any longer. If this happens, it is nothing to feel guilty about. If you are able to spend more time with your children, that is a perfectly acceptable reason to let your nanny go and a good nanny will understand completely. Just be sure that you provide her with ample notice, along with a letter of recommendation and any severance package she’s entitled to under the terms of her nanny contract.
  • She’s Prickly About Rule Compliance – You want a nanny that does things your way. This doesn’t mean you micromanage her, but you need to know that you can trust your nanny to adhere to your wishes when it comes to the basic way you want your children raised, fed and disciplined. If she refuses to conform to your family’s values or do the things you ask her to do, you should move on to another nanny.
  • Your Child Needs a Change – Occasionally, through no fault of the nanny’s, you just find that your child needs a change. Sometimes, for example, a parent realizes that her child has reached a point where she needs more social interaction and a daycare would now be a better option for her. Other times, parents might recognize that their children need someone more active or that they would do better with someone of the opposite gender. These understandings are something a good nanny will also be aware of, and she won’t take it personally when it’s time to move on.
  • Your Children are Bored – If you are coming home to find that your children have been watching television all day and they keep reporting to you that their day has been “boring,” you may want to consider another nanny. After all, you are paying someone to not only watch over your children but also to nurture them, teach them and entertain them. You want to be certain that your children are happy and stimulated.
  • Your Nanny Has Been Outgrown – There will come a day when your child outgrows her nanny. Your child may not need a caregiver any longer, and she may have reached a point where she can entertain herself. Children do grow up, and when that happens, it’s time for the nanny to move on to a new family. Many people stay in touch with their nannies all their lives by inviting them to birthday parties, the children’s sporting events and recitals, and even to major holidays. After all, the nanny was an integral part of the family for a long time, and a child’s feelings for the nanny won’t change just because she no longer needs the same level of care. So, in cases of children simply getting older, feel free to keep in contact with your former nanny for as long as she and your child wish to do so.

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